Defending Against Youthful Poor Decisions
The Last Layer of Defense
The defensive secondary focuses on keeping the opposition in front of them to thwart any progression. As parents of teenagers you help keep your teenager from making poor decisions.
Why does this moment in time bring so many challenges? Our children continue growing into independent adults. They experience:
Hormonal changes: Boys and girls alike have tremendous changes taking place physically which cause mood swings and lapses in good judgment.
Growing towards independence: Teenagers feel a desire for independence while experiencing a lack of confidence in interacting with the world around them. This struggle creates conflict.
Solidifying self-identity: Their personalities and perspectives are now like wet concrete. Formed but not quite set. Teens still need guidance to smooth the edges.
How does a parent guide a child through this time?
Training: Just like a sports team, you must exhibit the resolve to keep training, encouraging and talking to your teens. Take advantage of the “moments”.
- Many teens are ready to talk when they come in at curfew. Yes, you will lose some sleep while enjoying the opportunity for uninterrupted talk time.
- Put food in front of your teens and then sit down at the table with them. Eating together encourages conversation.
- Spend time playing sports and activities with your teens. Play whatever sport or game they enjoy for no other reason than play.
Courage: The defensive secondary often has to courageously tackle people larger than themselves. Parents who want their children to become successful adults have the courage to tell their children in a calm, reasoned and loving way why they disagree with decisions. Yes, your child will get mad. Just remember their respect is growing for you also.